You know how sometimes we’re just stressed about everything? Especially on Mondays, when you snooze your alarm, you finally get up only to realize you forgot to prepare your stuff last night and now everything is making you late, you miss the bus/train, you ditch the gym because you left home too late and will probably get to work late too. Maybe there will be a signal failure somewhere (common in London) or the traffic is absolutely jammed… and then you are definitely late.
Familiar with the feeling? Yep, it happens just a bit too many times doesn’t it? Don’t you get tired of being so angry and stressed with these things? Because at the end of the day, it does take a toll.
The Dalai Lama wisely said: “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” (As time goes by, I seem to embrace this quote more and more.)
You can maybe fix the situation by leaving on time in the first place, but sometimes, not even that helps, because you’ll still end up facing horrible traffic or annoying signal failures, and there’s just simply nothing we can do about it.
So instead of worrying, here’s a little challenge: accept that worrying won’t help, relax and try to embrace what’s around you. Open your eyes for the small stuff. Maybe there’s a beautiful day light, the smell of rain, maybe the flowers are blossoming or maybe the autumn colours are slowly appearing; maybe your jam just started playing in the radio. Sometimes you can even spot situations around you: an old lady with her even older dog, who you could swear look exactly the same; a young mum struggling with the baby stroller and an older man who stops to help; a funny conversation between two teenagers; siblings giggling about the man who fell asleep and their dad telling them to be quiet, whilst smiling himself… and if you’re stuck in traffic, well you can always have fun looking at other drivers or, you can do what I used to do, call all your friends to see who’s available to chat (Handsfree Bluetooth kit, OBVIOUSLY).
It doesn’t really matter what you choose to focus on, but my point is, sometimes we’re so busy being angry that we miss out on the world around us.
This may sound cheesy but makes me think of a particular scene from Sex and the City, when Charlotte is struggling to have babies and she’s talking to her friend about it. He suddenly says “will you just stop and look at the light?” She thinks he means “the bigger picture”, how everything is eventually going to be alright, but he harshly replies “NO! The freaking light there, in the park!”. She looks up and nostalgically says “when did it became fall?”
My point precisely; don’t get caught up in your problems so much that you let seasons go by without realising it. Don’t let the world go by without seeing it, because you’re stuck in worries, sadness and anger. Because you’ll end up regretting it when you finally realise what you’ve been missing out. If you can do something about it, do your best. If not, remember that “there’s no help in worrying”.
There’s so much beauty out there so many things worth looking at, so many things worth seeing, that trust me, you will have a much better day for noticing it. And sometimes noticing the small stuff can take you to inexplicable magical places, making you grateful and blissful, and completely turning your day around.
I know it does for me, so just try it.
I leave you with this absolutely beautiful short-film from DreamWorks (that I just saw on a friend’s Facebook post and I’m shamelessly stealing), ‘First Flight’, that shows just how by acknowledging the small stuff, one can leave behind his/her worries and just be happy; and with a bit of luck, have a positive impact on the world.